Single parent not sure what to do about a job:

  • Feel stressed, too many balls to juggle

  • Don’t feel attractive any more – how can I feel great about myself again?

  • Never have time for self – how can I do that with 2 kids who depend on me?

  • Marriage breakdown has robbed me of my identity – who am I really?

  • A decade of being undermined has caused me to doubt myself and my abilities. What skills, talents, experience do I have that can help me not just re-enter the job market but also thrive and feel fulfilled in it? Do I have any?

  • What lights me up?

  • What weighs me down?

  • What am I scared of?

  • What do I long to do / become?

  • Can anyone help me?

Middle manager, feels drab and bored senseless in his job:

  • What’s the point? Of any of it?

  • Used to feel so motivated, now literally dragging one foot behind the other.

  • Used to be viewed as a go-getter but now feel like a no-getter – everything seems to go wrong.

  • Nothing seems to spark joy any more. Nothing.

  • As for relationships, haven’t had one of those in a LONG time. And not interested in anything casual.

  • Feel so drab, grey and dull, why would anyone be interested anyway?

  • Work is one long, never ending, ground-hog day playing drudge.

  • Home is one gaping chasm of despair and anything but flair and self-care.

  • Not sure when last bought any new clothes that actually made me feel good.

  • Need to lose weight, have let myself go.

  • As for exercise, never have the energy for that.

  • Surely there has to be more to life? But where and how to find it?

Creative / adventurer / high achiever / fashionista really successful in one area but rest of life
‘empty’:

  • Why can’t I transpose my success at work into the rest of my life?

  • Such a 1D life but crave a 3D technicolour existence

  • Told I’m good looking but don’t ‘feel’ it. And even my looks are going, little wrinkles and lines where everything was smooth before. Should I have some work done, would it help me feel better, lastingly?

  • Feel drawn and drained – everything is work-focused. Even events or meals out, everythin is about work and networking, not connecting and relaxing and being me, the real me.

  • Yes I’m comfortably off, so I should feel happy and grateful but money definitely does not equal contentment or fulfilment. I am grateful for what I get to do and have experienced, but if I’m really honest, inside I feel dead.

  • So much of the time. I wonder, far too often, how the world would be without me – and I’m scared to utter this to anyone for fear of what they will think. There’s nothing wrong with me, I’m just human and struggling. Or is there something really wrong that I don’t realise.

  • Am I somehow fatally flawed? Would there be a ‘me’ shaped hole if I disappeared? Would anyone care or would everything just carry on as normal?

  • Have I really impacted anyone’s life so much that my going would rock their world, for months and years to come?

  • I’m popular and well respected but, although have lots of ‘friends’ I don’t actually have anyone I can totally open up to. Totally.

  • I feel lost. How do I find myself? How do I chart a new course? Set sail for new horizons?

  • Everyone comes to me for advice, as the wise, sensible, experienced one. But me, what about me, I want to learn new things. When did I last really challenge myself to do or learn anything that put me out of my comfort zone? I want to learn, I want to develop, but I don’t know what or where or how or why, if I’m honest.

  • Family and friends think I’ve made it but really I look at others with partners and children and far less material wealth and I envy them the closeness and connection they enjoy.

  • As for love, what is love? I’ve never felt it. Lust. Attraction. Admiration. Flirting – yes. Love, no. I wouldn’t know it if it hit me over the head. I always feel like those who show interest are just interested in what I represent, what I have, not in me.

  • Could anyone ever really love me if they knew who I really am inside? If I didn’t have anything, wealth or prestige or my own area of talent, could I still matter and be loved?

  • I don’t want to tinder or hang out on any other ‘exclusive dating app’. Been there, done that, but it’s so soulless. So plastic and tinny and reducing. It makes me feel like a product that needs to perform and impress rather than a person who needs to be ‘undressed’, understood and loved layer by layer. 

  • I love what I do but maybe I’m ready for something new, but what?

  • Who am I?

  • Is this all life has to offer?

  • In my zone I feel like I fly, I’m fuelled, driven, an adrenaline junkie but when I come off the high it’s a long way down. Surely there must be a way to live with more balance and not get bored? And feel like I’m somehow above looking down, not a part of it really?

  • Where are all the exciting people? I meet people all day long but there are very few I connect with or want to know more.

  • Everyone seems to have their own agenda, out to achieve their own goals and I’m of interest only when my area of expertise overlaps with theirs.